Usually my daughter and I have great days. We play, laugh, learn, cuddle and just have good fun. Other days we almost have all out war.
She misbehaves. I yell. She misbehaves more. I yell louder. We both work eachother up because we are SO alike. Its a vicious cycle…
My husband, a very wise man, calls it our “funk. ” he usually has to mediate when we have these bad days – it’s sad.
What’s sadder is that I know that these days are totally avoidable and correctable.
If I could just realize when our funk is coming, then I could just stop what I’m doing and hug her. I could just drop everything and give her some extra cuddles. I could just play with the ponies or the dollies a little longer. I could just ignore whatever I have to do and pay attention to her, because she’s more important than anything else.
But the problem is that I don’t notice the warning signs until we are already knee – deep in rice patties. I’m yelling, she’s misbehaving and the dog is hiding under the covers, afraid of what might happen next. At that point it’s hard to recover.
I know when we have these days that the bad behavior from her and quick temper from me stems directly from the fact that I have too much going on and she wants my attention.
It’s that simple.
Some days I need to slow down and cuddle more. But how do I notice? What am I missing?